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Why We Don’t Like to Feel Shame
And yet we find it so hard to let go of it.
Yesterday I wrote about a situation where I felt shame. I almost edited the word out because using that word made me feel ashamed and indicated that I had done something wrong. I had, and I struggled with that.
Increasing emotional awareness
I am working on improving my emotional language to help me better manage my emotions. To help me with this, I printed out an emotional wheel. (Link below). As part of my journaling, I ask myself.
What am I feeling now?
What do I want to feel?
What can I do to move towards that?
This morning, as I struggled to develop an idea to write about, I opened my meditation website. The meditation of the day was on managing shame. I did the exercise and used the recent situation as part of the exercise.
One of my biggest challenges with mindfulness is accepting and letting go of the emotion. I want to do something to make it go away. The thing I have to remember is that a situation that happened cannot be changed. We have to accept the mistakes and then let them go.
If I let go of shame and anger, I would also be less anxious.
